By aussiematesvietnam 
How to Blend in: Cultural Adaptation Tips for Vietnamese Travel
G’day fellow travellers! Aussie Mates here, coming to you from the bustling streets of Vietnam where I’ve been lucky enough to call home for nearly two decades now. My wife Tracy and I have learned a thing or two about adapting to the local culture, and believe me, it makes all the difference between being just another tourist and having a genuinely authentic experience.
When Tracy and I first arrived in Vietnam, we stood out like a sore thumb. We made all the classic rookie mistakes – pointing with our index fingers, wearing singlets into temples, and speaking at what the locals must have thought was thunderous volume. Fast forward 20 years, and we’ve picked up enough cultural know-how to blend in (well, as much as a couple of Aussies can in Southeast Asia!).
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So if you’re planning a trip to this amazing country, grab a cuppa and let me share some practical tips that’ll help you navigate Vietnamese culture with respect and confidence.
Master the Basics of Vietnamese Etiquette
First things first, mates. Vietnamese culture is steeped in respect and social harmony, and a few simple gestures can go a long way.
When greeting locals, a simple nod or slight bow with a smile works wonders. If you’re feeling confident, try saying “xin chào” (sin chow) – the Vietnamese greeting. Handshakes are becoming more common, especially in cities, but follow the local’s lead. Tracy always reminds me that with older people or those of higher status, it’s polite to use both hands for handshakes.
One thing I learned the hard way – pointing is considered rude here. Instead, gesture with your open hand, palm facing upward. And mates, keep your cool! Raising your voice or showing frustration in public is a big no-no in a culture that values emotional restraint and “saving face.”
Dress the Part
You might be used to shorts and singlets back home during summer, but Vietnamese dress codes are generally more conservative, especially outside major cities.
For blokes, long trousers and shirts with sleeves are your best bet, particularly when visiting religious sites or rural areas. Ladies, it’s best to keep shoulders covered and skirts/shorts at knee length or longer. Tracy always packs a light scarf in her day bag – handy for covering shoulders when entering temples or if we’re invited into someone’s home.
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When we visit Vietnamese homes, we always remove our shoes at the door. It’s a sign of respect and cleanliness that locals really appreciate. I’ve noticed more smiles and warmer welcomes just from this simple gesture!
Mealtime Manners That Matter
Crikey, food is central to Vietnamese culture, and there’s a whole set of etiquette rules around eating!
If you’re invited to a meal, bring a small gift – fruit, sweets, or flowers work well (but not chrysanthemums, which are associated with funerals). Wait to be told where to sit, as the seating arrangement often follows hierarchical rules.
When using chopsticks (and do give them a go!), never leave them sticking upright in your rice bowl – this resembles incense sticks at funerals and is considered bad luck. Instead, rest them on the chopstick holder or across your bowl. Tracy struggled with chopsticks initially but now uses them like a pro!
Try everything that’s offered, even if it’s just a small amount. Our Vietnamese friends always appreciate when we sample everything, even the more… adventurous dishes. And if you’re full, leave a little food on your plate – finishing everything suggests you weren’t given enough food!
Communication Beyond Words
The Vietnamese language is tonal and challenging for most Westerners, but learning a few basic phrases can earn you enormous goodwill.
- “Cảm ơn” (cam un) – Thank you
- “Xin lỗi” (sin loy) – Sorry/Excuse me
- “Bao nhiêu?” (bow nyew) – How much?
Beyond words, your body language speaks volumes. The Vietnamese generally appreciate a more reserved physical presence – avoid excessive gesturing, public displays of affection, or touching someone’s head (considered sacred).
Remember that smiling goes a long way! Tracy and I have found that a genuine smile can overcome almost any language barrier and instantly makes locals more receptive and helpful.
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Navigating Social Relationships
Vietnamese society is deeply relational and hierarchical. Age and status matter significantly, and the language itself has different pronouns based on relative age and social position.
When addressing older people, it’s respectful to use “ông” (male) or “bà” (female) before their name. With people roughly your age, “anh” (male) or “chị” (female) is appropriate. These little nuances show respect and cultural awareness.
One mistake I made early on was being too direct in business situations. Vietnamese communication tends to be indirect and relationship-focused. Small talk before getting down to business isn’t just pleasantry – it’s essential relationship building!
Religious Respect in a Spiritual Land
Vietnam has a fascinating blend of Buddhism, Confucianism, Taoism, and ancestor worship. When visiting pagodas, temples, or other religious sites, modest dress is mandatory – cover shoulders and knees.
Tracy always reminds me to walk clockwise around Buddhist shrines as a sign of respect. Remove shoes before entering sacred spaces, speak quietly, and ask permission before taking photos, especially of monks or altars.
We’ve found that showing genuine interest in local spiritual practices often leads to meaningful exchanges. Many Vietnamese are happy to explain their beliefs if approached respectfully.
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Haggling – The Art of the Deal
At markets, haggling is expected, but there’s a right way to do it. Start by showing interest in the item without appearing too eager. When they state a price, offer about 40% less, then work toward a middle ground.
Always haggle with a smile and keep it light-hearted. Remember, it’s not just about getting the lowest price possible – it’s a social exchange. Walking away too many times or being aggressive will cause the seller to lose face.
Tracy has become the haggling expert in our household. Her secret? Building rapport with sellers through small talk before discussing price. We’ve gotten some ripper deals and made friends in the process!
Conclusion: Respect Earns Respect
After two decades in Vietnam, the biggest lesson Tracy and I have learned is that showing genuine respect for local customs opens doors to authentic experiences most tourists never encounter. We’ve been invited to family weddings, traditional festivals, and home-cooked meals – all because locals recognized our efforts to adapt to their culture.
Vietnam is a country of incredible warmth and hospitality. When you make the effort to understand and respect the cultural nuances, the Vietnamese people respond with generosity and openness that will make your travel experience truly unforgettable.
Remember, you don’t need to get everything perfect – Vietnamese people are generally understanding of cultural mistakes made by foreigners. What matters is showing a genuine willingness to respect local customs.
So pack your sense of adventure along with these cultural tips, and you’ll be set for an amazing journey through one of Southeast Asia’s most fascinating countries. As we say in the outback – she’ll be right, mate!
Until next time,
Aussie Mates